Chaos by choice
Multiple studies have shown that the vast majority of regrets people have, nearing the end of their lives, is not what they did, but what they didn’t do. They regretted inactions, not actions.
One study (Ellen Langer / Judith Rodin) was on 2 groups of nursing home residents. One was encouraged to make decisions for themselves – where and when to receive visitors for example. They were given a houseplant to look after. The other group were equally as looked after but were not offered the responsibilities. They were given the houseplants but told not to worry about them and that they would be looked after for them. The mortality rate of the group with added purpose was half that of the other group.
Nassim Taleb in his book ‘Antifragile’ writes about how just as human bones get stronger when subjected to stress and tension, many things in life benefit from stress, disorder, volatility, and turmoil. What Taleb has identified and calls antifragile are things that not only gain from chaos but need chaos in order to survive and flourish. I think, to a degree, your entire life is one of those things, as long as you get to initiate and control the chaos.
Rather life on a rollercoaster than a conveyor belt.